Category: Let's talk
When on the zone, what would one expect of the expectations of the people on the zone. When talking to people do you expect them to be ratty and rude or to be kind and nunnish. And if your expectations are to high, what is done then?
It takes time to get to know what to expect from others on here just as it does with any group of people. I think I've been here long enough to know who the bullies are - the ones who enjoy putting people down no matter what they say just to make themselves feel intelligent and big and important, the ones who will always say something nice, and the ones who can be unpredictable.
Don't expect anything and you won't be surprised. Be aware of the possibilities and accept them.
it depends intirely on the individual persinallity.
I think stargate and cat lover are right, it does depend on personality. I get impressions of people very easily, especially bad ones. If someone is rude to me once, I suspect they will most likely be so again. I guess in a way, deep down, I don't necessarily have a positive view of human nature, because I'm not at all shocked when someone I thought was nice turns out not to be as nice as I thought they were, but I never cease to be shocked and amazed when someone who isn't a nice persondoes an about face and does or says something nice. I guess I generally expect someone who swears a lot to be hateful and unapproachable, and dreadful to speak to.
wonderwoman
I think the less you have expectations overall, the happier you'll be. If you run into jerks and assholes and those who want to cause drama, the ignore feature is your best friend, else you can just skip the post and refuse to respond. If you come in with too many expectations you'll probably end up with more disappointment.
Tardis some people start off nicce and recpetive to your point of view, then inexplicably they become insane and accuse you of all kinds of miscreant nonsense..Some are all too happy to play games and switch personalities when it suits them. I have very low expectations of many people here, and they only have themselves to blame. As you will no doubt find out, from their infantile response to this post.
Tardis some people start off nicce and recpetive to your point of view, then inexplicably they become insane and accuse you of all kinds of miscreant nonsense..Some are all too happy to play games and switch personalities when it suits them. I have very low expectations of many people here, and they only have themselves to blame. As you will no doubt find out, from their infantile response to this post.
like wayne said, if you dont expect anything, you wont be let down.
that's true, but also on the other hand, if you expect someone to be a jerk, and they turn out not to be as jerky as you thought, you can get a nice surprise.
wonderwoman
Well been surprised can be a good experience. This though is a site where people socialise. Therefore, it'd be wise to expect of people on this site what you'd expect of people in your local pub, in your workplace, on other sites, in supermarkets, in town centres, on busses, on trains, etc.
I think that by having pre-conceived ideas about what someone is going to be like, your expectations are confirmed before the person has even had a chance to prove him/herself. Also, it is your own reaction to people that can cause them to be how you think they are going to be, especially if, as someone put earlier, you expect people to be a jerk from the outset. It is likely that if you expect someone to be horrible, your attitude towards them will reflect those expectations, and therefore it is likely that they will live up to them.
I rest my case the usual suspects have not disappointed they never do.
I think you should come expecting something but don't put it as a primary thing. You want to have an open mind and just get the chance to talk to people, but at the same time if you feel that this person just doesn't do it for you, it is good to expect that much at least.